Amazing insights BoSS. I would add — break up with goal and vision and just give your 100% at each task at hand. The goal and vision is just to give you direction, constantly imagining the results, the expectation ect is killer of joy, it decreases your ability to give your best, as it takes mental real estate. When things don’t work out exactly according to expectations you start loosing the momentum, thus the feeling of unlimited energy goes away.
What stood out to me is how many of these “rules” are less about specific actions and more about how attention is directed. There's a consistent theme underneath the list that suggests life becomes heavier when attention is scattered across things you can't control, and clearer when it's focused on what you can influence. That idea shows up in different forms throughout the piece, whether it's complaining, comparison, or the environment you choose to engage with. It's easy to read these as separate insights, but they all seem to point toward a single underlying principle about awareness and responsibility.
What makes this compelling is also what makes it worth questioning. Some of the rules lean toward certainty in areas that are often more situational and complex. For example, ideas about relationships being transactional or never taking advice from someone with less experience can be useful in some contexts, but limiting in others. It seems more accurate to treat these as directional guides rather than fixed truths. The value isn't in following each rule exactly, but in recognizing the pattern behind them and adapting that pattern to your own circumstances.
The most useful takeaway, in my opinion, is the emphasis on agency without ignoring reality. There is a clear push to take ownership of your actions, your mindset, and your trajectory, while also acknowledging that life isn't always fair or predictable. That balance is difficult to maintain, and it's often where people struggle. If there's a thread that ties this together, it's the idea that clarity comes from regularly stepping back and examining how you think, not just what you do. That practice, more than any single rule, is what allows the rest of the advice to become meaningful over time.
16 - you shouldn’t be kind to waiters because they can mess up your life, you should be kind to waiters just because you should ;)
Having a 3-6 month check in is so important. It’s nice to have a long game plan but it’s even more important to be open to change
Amazing insights BoSS. I would add — break up with goal and vision and just give your 100% at each task at hand. The goal and vision is just to give you direction, constantly imagining the results, the expectation ect is killer of joy, it decreases your ability to give your best, as it takes mental real estate. When things don’t work out exactly according to expectations you start loosing the momentum, thus the feeling of unlimited energy goes away.
The game in this is incredible.
Thanks for sharing BoS - Must've taken a while
As always. Much appreciated Vincent! Enjoy your Sunday.
What stood out to me is how many of these “rules” are less about specific actions and more about how attention is directed. There's a consistent theme underneath the list that suggests life becomes heavier when attention is scattered across things you can't control, and clearer when it's focused on what you can influence. That idea shows up in different forms throughout the piece, whether it's complaining, comparison, or the environment you choose to engage with. It's easy to read these as separate insights, but they all seem to point toward a single underlying principle about awareness and responsibility.
What makes this compelling is also what makes it worth questioning. Some of the rules lean toward certainty in areas that are often more situational and complex. For example, ideas about relationships being transactional or never taking advice from someone with less experience can be useful in some contexts, but limiting in others. It seems more accurate to treat these as directional guides rather than fixed truths. The value isn't in following each rule exactly, but in recognizing the pattern behind them and adapting that pattern to your own circumstances.
The most useful takeaway, in my opinion, is the emphasis on agency without ignoring reality. There is a clear push to take ownership of your actions, your mindset, and your trajectory, while also acknowledging that life isn't always fair or predictable. That balance is difficult to maintain, and it's often where people struggle. If there's a thread that ties this together, it's the idea that clarity comes from regularly stepping back and examining how you think, not just what you do. That practice, more than any single rule, is what allows the rest of the advice to become meaningful over time.